I am blown away by the response to my last post! It's encouraging to know that there are so many other women out there who read my blog and want to take this step to self re-discovery alongside me. I'm so excited!
I haven't had a whole ton of time to read over the past couple of days... and I'm sure this won't be the last time it's that way! You mommies out there know how it goes ;) And with my baby girl cutting her first tooth, things have been a little on the crazy side.
However, I read a little snippet here and there and the portion I read was mainly centered around the idea of how men play into our role as captivating women. It spoke about a man's heart, and the contrast between their hearts and our own as women.
Have any of you ever read "Wild at Heart"? I read it in high school, and it was a very enlightening read! It explains so much about the male race that we oftentimes just write off or even scoff at! (Wild at Heart was written by the same author who wrote "Captivating")
Basically, just as much as we as women are programmed to daydream about being princesses in a castle being rescued, men are programmed to want to be that rescuer. Genius that it works that way, right? It's evident in the way that little boys sword fight or play with paintball guns... it's how they connect, prove themselves, find affirmation, etc. But just as much as they love fighting, they love having something to fight for.
And guess what that is?? US!!!! Men love having a beauty to fight for! A damsel in distress... I love that we are the object of men's affection in that way. A holy affection. Not the purely sexual, objectified affection that the world screams at us on a daily basis. There is still a holiness in man and woman's sexual and love relationship. Don't let the world rob that from you. (I'm sure there will be more on that in chapters to come.)
So, ladies... that is our Captivating study for today! What are your thoughts?
- What things in your husband's life have you noticed that reveal his innate manhood? Things that might annoy you or frustrate you, that actually are just your husband trying to express his God-given desires? For me, I used to get frustrated when my husband would take off for sports nights with the guys. I felt that he should want to be home more than he would want to be out playing football or basketball, etc. But I realized, that that is his way of expressing himself as a man. My husband is GREAT at sports, and he feels very affirmed when he is on the field. People comment on how good he is, and it's obvious to anyone who sees him play. that affirmation is so powerful for him and that football field is his battlefield.
- What fears do you have about discovering your true womanhood? I'm scared of discovering that I'm betraying myself, in a sense. Of discovering that I've allowed some of my dreams to die without good reason. I'm scared of discovering that I betrayed that little girl in that pink dress who twirled around in complete bliss. I'm terrified that I've lost myself somewhere along the route of living my life.
- What are you most excited about taking this journey? I know that God is going to do big things through this journey in my life. I know that I am going to re-discover some parts of myself that I didn't even know needed to be rediscovered. I am excited because I know that by walking through this journey of understanding myself as a girl, and now as a woman... will help me be a better mother to my daughter so that I can help her discover her womanhood as she grows.